Category: Manage stress with hypnosis

1. Discovering stress and how to deal with it-the difference between chicks and goslings

   Posted on 1:13pm Saturday 12th Jul 2014

   I am reading a great book called "The Chimp Paradox" at the moment and one of the stories in it has inspired this blog all about knowing the difference between chicks and goslings and discovering stress. Once you discover stress it is much easier to deal with.

   So, here is a little story for you....

   A hen was placed in a pen along with her chicks and then a fox was released.
   The fox circled the pen to try and grab the chicks. The mother hen knew exactly what to do and so she spread her wings and faced the fox head on. With her wings spread, the chicks ran beneath them to safety. The hen then threatened the fox by lowering her head and warning him with a pointed beak. The fox couldn't get the chicks and the hen stood her ground. All was well and the fox left with nothing.

   Later that day some goslings were added to the pen. Being a mother hen, the hen took responsibility for their protection and acted as their mother too. But then the fox returned. This time he circled round the pen, and the goslings also tried to get under the wings of the mother hen, However, there were too many chicks and goslings to get underneath so many ran round in a panic The hen tried to chase after them to save them but of course, she couldn't manage it. At this point, realising the situation was hopeless, she left them all and flew to try and get out of the pen, leaving all of the young birds open to attack by the fox

   So what is the lesson that we can learn from this? When it comes to dealing with the problems and responsilities that life throws at us it is really important to make a distinction between problems that are your responsility (chicks) and problems that are others (goslings). If you start taking responsibility for other people's problems then you can expect to become stressed. Not only could you then fail to help others, but you will also fail to sort out your own problems too. Beware of the goslings in your life!

   So, of course this doesn't mean that you shouldn't help others, but do be careful not to start owning other people's problems. By all means support people as they help themselves but don't take over a problem you have no control over.

   If you would like to take a look at The Chimp Paradox by Dr. Steve Peters you can find it on Amazon here..

2. Friends actress Jennifer Aniston sees confidence coach for hypnotherapy

   Posted on 10:23am Monday 9th Jun 2014

   Friends actress Jennifer Aniston, who is engaged to Justin Theroux has been seeing a "confidence counsellor" and having hypnotherapy for anxiety ahead of George Clooney's wedding, as reported in Grazia Magazine.

   Aniston is said to be nervous of coming face-to-face with her ex-husband Brad Pitt and his fiancee Angelina Jolie when their mutual friend George Clooney ties the knot with lawyer Amal Alamuddin later this year, so she is doing everything she can to put her anxieties and worries to rest.
   
   

   A source said: "Jen's no stranger to therapy, so she decided to seek some help. At the wedding, she'll have Justin there for support, but the thought of seeing Brad and Angelina is quite overwhelming. The therapist has been helping to build her confidence and eliminate the fear she seems to have built up about coming face-to-face with them. She has also been having hypnotherapy,"  

   Though Jennifer has seen Brad and Angelina only once, at the 2009 Oscars, since they divorced nine years ago, she is said to be particularly concerned about the wedding as it will be so intimate. The Oscars were one thing, but George's wedding will involve being in a smaller, far more intimate group where they won't be able to avoid one another. Jen wants to be as happy anc comfortable as possible.

   "She has been doing role plays with her confidence coach and will be as prepared as she can be." said her friend.

   It is interesting to see that she is taking steps to handle what could be a difficult situation for her. Rather than just live with the worry she is doing something about it. Isn't that the best way to be?