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  1. As I caught up with the news this morning I saw that Prof Steve Peters was appearing on BBC Breakfast talking about The Chimp Paradox. As this is a book I have found to be very useful in my life both personally and in a work context I realised that perhaps I could share some of my positive thoughts around it.

     

    The Chimp Paradox by Prof Steve Peters a book review

    As a clinical Hypnotherapist I spend a good deal of time helping my clients to think about new ways to look at things that happen in their lives and alternative ways to deal with those occurrences.

    I use many examples of things that happen in my own life to illustrate what can happen and make those things seem easy to understand. Having an eleven year old often means that things that happen with us can make a great story and the way that a child sees the world is very different from the way that we so called “grown ups” do.

    Dr. Steve Peters’ book The Chimp Paradox – The Mind Management programme for Confidence, Success and Happiness is a fascinating read and helps open up the mind to a different way of thinking.

    The simple version of what this book does is give a way to see how we react to what happens in our lives and demonstrate that in many ways our adverse reactions to things are not our fault because there is a part of us which he calls “the chimp” which does not take time to look at the facts and works only on an initial emotional response. Once we become aware of the chimp and the role it plays then we can start to understand why we do the things we do, and more importantly we can learn to tame it somewhat and treat it in a way that shows we understand it. Then it can let off steam when it needs to and our Human side can take over and ensure that the more rational part of us, the part that is sensible and respectful, can be in charge when it needs to be.

    Through this simple analogy the book explores many more complex parts of our whole and how the interaction of those parts causes us to live the lives we do and behave in the ways that we do. Along with exercises that can be performed and more complex understanding of our thought pattern we can see how we can change.

    If I find a book that is useful I will often recommend it to other therapists and also sometimes to clients. In the case of this book I would, and have been heartily recommend it to both clients and peers.

    I love being able to talk about things that have happened in my life in order to show real stories and as a hypnotherapist I am very aware of Milton Erickson who built his career and teaching on stories and examples and whose influence looms very large over hypnotherapy still.  This book is such that anyone taking it away will be able to understand exactly where it is coming from. I would like to think that I am well aware of how my thoughts influence my life, this didn’t mean that I wasn’t able to benefit greatly from reading The Chimp Paradox.

    Steve Peters' book really does have a simple way to understand that you can take back some control. Once you realise why you did not have that control you can start to take the steps that you need to tame that chimp and even if you sometimes struggle to be in control, you can understand why that is and move away from beating yourself up about it.

    I heartily recommend this book. It isn’t something that you really need to read in order to make your life better. It will make you think about things in a different way even if you feel that you already have the control over the parts of you that you may not feel you always control. Even if you feel that you control your own chimp reading the examples and stories will entertain and inform you.

  2. In this episode of The Speakmans we saw them deal with a fear of flying. Fear of flying is one of the most common phobias and fears that I see, and this is the same for many Clinical Hypnotherapists like myself.

    Alison has always had a fear of flying and she told us that it has got worse with every flight that she has taken. She has avoided flying on a plane as much as possible but now she wants to visit her daughter in Dubai so she has a reason to do something about it. She arrives as Speakman Hall for treatment with her daughter Zoe, for the usual family mediation therapy. If you do not feel comfortable working with your family on your fear and phobia, then do understand that the vast majority of therapists do not work in this way. The is a Television show and so it makes for better viewing with more tears and sadness to watch, but is not a part of normal therapy for most therapists.

     

    When did it start?

    We heard about the first incident that caused her to worry and how it made her feel. Of course when this happened there was no actual problem. She saw some technical problems being sorted out and built these up in her mind to being much worse than they actually were.

    We established that nothing has actually gone wrong on any flight she has been on. Of course in reality this is irrelevant to you if your fear is so great. Her daughter is actually cabin crew so flies all the time as part of her job.

    If you would like help with any fear or phobia there is lots of free help and advice here including a FREE relaxation MP3 for you to listen to and try for yourself. Rest assured that asking for help is often the hardest part and once you have done this you can move forward, lose your phobia, and forget about the bad times as you look forward to everything that you really want.

    The Speakmans do tell people what they think they are thinking and feeling which is quite unusual. Sometimes it appears that they are leading people rather than letting them come to their own understanding. However, I think this is more due to the editing of the show and fitting it into 46 minutes than the reality of therapy.

    The type of therapy that they practice isn't for everyone, however the fact that they are raising awareness of the fact that you can let go of a fear of flying, or any other fear or phobia is of course excellent. If you are looking for help then speak to more than one therapist and find the right person to help you and you can overcome your past and look forward to the future.

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