Category: Manage stress with hypnosis

1. You can't be a good Mother if you take time for yourself.

   Posted on 12:04pm Tuesday 5th May 2015

   Do you find yourself running around, being a taxi driver for your children, doing the school run, fitting in work and family time too? Is it "Impossible" for you to take any time for yourself?

   If you are a Mother of a child of any age then you will know that taking time for yourself can be difficult and finding just a few moments can be an impossible task.

   I see so many mothers who explain that they do not have any time for themselves. They are explaining this to me whilst telling me about how stressful their lives are. They talk of never having space or time for themselves because they want to look after their family. Somehow, though they have ended up seeking my help because they are struggling to cope. It's a very common situation and one that you may recognise in yourself.

   The phrase that I hear time and time again is..

   "I can't take time out for myself because that would be selfish."

   Often this is something they have decided themselves, other times they have been told it by others and it has sunk it.

   Does it ring a bell with you? Are you finding it impossible to take any time for yourself? Does it seem like all your time is spent looking after others?

   Whenever I come across someone saying this...and it happens more often than you may realise, I always have the same response...

   "Why is it selfish to have some time for yourself?"

   Think about it for a second. If you are trying to look after others then how on earth can you do that properly if you are not looking after yourself?

   It's not selfish in the slightest to look after yourself, and taking time for yourself will make everything else you do better. That's being selfless rather than selfish!

   Here's an example of why you have to look after yourself first..

   Have you ever been on a plane? Remember what they say about the oxygen masks? Let me remind you..

   "In the event of a decompression, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you. To start the flow of oxygen, pull the mask towards you. Place it firmly over your nose and mouth, secure the elastic band behind your head, and breathe normally. Although the bag does not inflate, oxygen is flowing to the mask. If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person. Keep your mask on until a uniformed crew member advises you to remove it."

   Does that make sense? I hope it does!  

   It's exactly the same for you. So think about it. Take some time for yourself and see how soon you start to see the difference...and see how soon those around you see it too!

   Why not take just ten minutes now and have a listen to my free relaxation MP3..just click below..

   

    

2. Hypnotherapy for driving test nerves and anxiety

   Posted on 9:43am Tuesday 21st Apr 2015

   When I think back to my driving test days, or should I say driving tests days, I smile fondly at the memory. That's how I look at it in hindsight but for so many people struggling to get through their driving tests it can become a source of great anxiety and nerves. It can even lead to panic attacks and the thought "I will never be able to pass my driving test"

   How can you break this cycle of nerves and anxiety?

   I actually took three goes to pass my test. The first time I don't think I was ready to take it. The second time I was overcome with nerves and failed on goodness knows how many accounts. The third time however I had let go of the anxiety and I sailed through. Like everyone who passed after multiple attempts...I also think that it probably made me a better driver than those who passed first time. (We all say that!)

   When I see someone who is worried about a driving test, the chances are that they have already failed it once before. It can be easy to turn it into a bigger problem than it is. Once you start thinking about the next driving test you can already see yourself nervous and stressed and on the way to failing. I like to use the phrase "We get more of what we think about" a lot. It's a simple way to understand how once you begin to imagine that you will fail then the chances are more likely that you will!

   One of the simple ways to change the way you think about the test is to change the way you see it. When I talk through my clients who have asked me for hypnotherapy for driving test nerves, we look at how important it is to pass.

   

    

   Of course, it's very important! It can make a huge difference to your life. That freedom and independence will take you wherever you want it. This can just add to the stress.

   Here's another questions that may change it..

   How important is it to pass it on the next attempt?
   

   Most people would say it was very important. However, I would say it's not important at all. What happens if you fail? Do they post your picture on the internet with "FAILURE" printed over it and then ban you from ever taking another test?

   No, of course not.  They just let you take another one! And another. It's not important that you pass this time. We have all read stories about people who have failed many many times. They have got into a cycle of thinking the next one will be a failure too. But, the positive side of this is that they can still keep on taking the test!! As many times as they want. Of course there is a cost in multiple driving test attempts, but they won't stop you trying!

   Of course, that is just the begining. Hypnotherapy for driving test nerves will teach you to relax and let go, it can help to grow your confidence and put everything into perspective so that you can go out and pass that driving test.

   Once you have passed...then you don't need to do it again. It will all be over...or is it just the start?

   You can contact me on 07980 233160 for help and advice or email me on [email protected]